Happy Birthday To Me!

Honouring Your Birthday With Care

Birthdays can be big.

The time around your birthday can be big.

I believe that our birth - and the way we came into existence, including our time in the womb - has a truly profound influence on us.

Your birthday can bring you, consciously or unconsciously, into connection with your birth, with the deep‑rooted beliefs you acquired about yourself in the very early stages of life: your coming into being, your time in the womb, your birth experience, your time as a baby, and/or your early childhood.

It can also connect you with experiences and feelings you still hold from that time.

Our experiences, and the beliefs and thoughts we formed based on those early experiences, color our everyday life. Often we are not aware of this, but I believe they do.

Many of us were not welcomed in our feelings, and because of this, many of us still hold feelings about our own birth experience, our time in the womb, and our early babyhood.

We may also still carry feelings about how we were celebrated - or not celebrated - as children on our birthdays.

I believe that the time around your birthday connects you with all of this, consciously or unconsciously. In this way, the time around your birthday is such a fruitful moment to give space to the parts and feelings that are there - parts and feelings that would love to be heard and cared for.

By offering these younger parts of you presence and connection - hearing the feelings they may not have been able to share before, welcoming their unmet needs and meeting them to the best of your ability - you come home to yourself and who you truly are, and your stories begin to color your life less and less.

In this program, I’ll be right by your side as you explore your birth story, your birth themes, your birthday themes, and so much more. I also believe this is multi‑layered, that there is something “new” to explore every year.

Do you enjoy giving yourself - and your parts and feelings - more time, love, and care on and around your birthday?

I would love to support you with that, through the “Happy Birthday to Me!” program.

I would love to be by your side in this magical and vulnerable time, if you would like me to.

This program is inspired by all the things I do, and have done over the years, with and around my own birthdays.

How this program works

You can of course explore your birthday and your birth story at any time of the year, and this program is self‑paced. Still, I would love to invite you to begin about ten days to two weeks before your actual birthday. There is something magical and fruitful about the moment when the Sun returns to the exact position it held at the time of your birth

After signing up, I will ask you a few gentle questions - for example, what flowers you love, or something that is dear to you. I want this to be truly personal, and I enjoy creating a PDF that is uniquely made for you.

You will receive a PDF that you can print out or connect with on your computer.

This PDF contains self‑reflection questions that help you connect with the areas and parts of your life that would love to be heard and included. It also offers practices and invitations that can be supportive and nourishing during this tender time.

For about two weeks around your birthday, you will have access to me on Messenger to share anything that would love to be witnessed and accompanied. I will be by your side throughout this journey.

We will meet on Zoom for 60 minutes during these weeks together. This will be your time to share, or to connect more deeply with the feelings that would love to be included and heard.

This program doesn’t include much Aware Parenting theory. I created it with the intention to support you in your healing journey. Of course, offering a space to explore your past and let some feelings move is also part of Aware Parenting.

It connects with principles 9 and 10 of Aware Parenting, where Aletha Solter invites parents to take care of themselves and to find places to heal from their own childhood hurts.

Why I created this program

I’ve noticed in my own life that birthdays often didn’t unfold the way I hoped. I also felt many intense feelings around my day of entering this world - layers that wanted to be heard, held, and understood.

Over the years, I began meeting my birthdays more consciously. Bit by bit, I started including things that felt deeply nourishing and supportive for me.

In December 2022, around my 42th birthday, I felt inspired to create a self‑paced online program all around birthdays - your birthday. My intention was to offer a gentle, welcoming space where you can connect with parts and feelings that might need love and care, and to create a soft place for whatever is present to be heard, held, and included as tender next steps on your healing journey.

I also wanted to support you in connecting with your wishes, wants, and needs around your birthday - so this time of the year can become truly nourishing for you.

There is so much more included, all with the hope that it will support you in including yourself more fully in many areas of your life.

With this self‑paced course, I will be by your side in the time around your birthday. You can reach out to me at any moment, and a session is included as well - a spacious moment for whatever would love to be witnessed.

I truly love offering this, and holding space for what wants to be held, heard, and included.

I’ve received some heartwarming testimonials, and I would love to share a few of them with you.

Heart warming words

  • "Happy Birthday to Me! was such a special and dear birthday gift. A big, heartfelt thank you, Vivian! I could sense all the love and care that you have put into it and with it your compassionate and supportive presence for this special and often challenging time in my year. This time I was not alone in feeling the bigness of it! The listening session was for me the most amazing part. Your presence, tenderness, and unconditional, loving acceptance in which you held my younger parts were deeply touching and healing. I highly recommend working with Vivian!"

    - Corinne

  • " I highly recommend the „Happy becoming a mother“ course with the warm and loving support of Vivian. The course showed me how magic the time around birthdays is. And invited me to open a safe space for my upcoming feelings. I had really beautiful insights and I am deeply thankful for all the healing I experienced."

    - can t remember, wendy or

  • "Dear Vivian, It was such a gift to follow the program: 'Happy Birthday to me!'. I couldn't have known how it would serve me. Your warmth, authenticity and true compassion really moved me. Because there are so many different invitations/ exercises I could choose what resonated with me. It took me on a journey, to truly feel within myself. I felt so much support from you. Only to know that you were following the process on a distance, was as if there was a little guardian angel full of love and compassion, guiding me. I read your messages several times, because you wrote exactly the words that I once so needed to hear. When we met (online) it was as if I had known you already for quite some time. We could immediately dive in deep. I feel grateful for all the insights that I experienced during our conversation. I highly recommend you to anyone who is in need of some true compassionate support as a parent ."

    - Milou

  • "Having completed both of Vivian’s birth and birthing day courses, I can say that I’m so glad I took part. Tensions and dread around both my own birthday and the day I gave birth have dissolved and have been replaced with lightness, ease and presence. The caring, incisive questions really helped me uncover buried memories and feelings causing difficulties in the present and the included counselling time with her loving presence and access to messaging helped release those areas of stuckness. I recommend the courses to anyone who feels difficulty around those dates."

    - Wendy

  • You can buy this program by using the sign‑up button - “ I would love to join!”. It will take you to a page where you can choose your option and complete your purchase.

    You are also very welcome to reach out to me by email or on Messenger if that feels more comfortable for you.

  • There are a few different ways to join this journey, depending on the level of support that you would love.

    Full package - personalised PDF + one‑on‑one session + two weeks of voice‑message support

    215 euros per month

    A deeply personalised option with both live support and ongoing voice‑message presence.

    Partial package - either the one‑on‑one session or voice‑message support

    125 euros per month

    For you if you would love support, but prefer to focus on one modality.

    Self‑paced journey - the material sent as a minimum‑personalised PDF

    35 euros

    A gentle way to explore the material at your own rhythm, around your birthday, without extra support.

  • You are welcome to share with me for two weeks on Messenger, WhatsApp, or another platform, and you can choose when these two weeks begin. I think it is most supportive to start a little before your birthday and to continue for a few days afterwards - a gentle thread of support as you move into your new year.

    You can reach out to me at any moment during these two weeks, and I will be there to accompany whatever would love to be witnessed.

  • Yes, you can. You are very welcome to purchase this program as a gift for someone dear to you. If you would like to offer this to someone, you are warmly invited to reach out to me.

    I’m happy to help you arrange it in a way that is personal and supportive.

  • Yes. I also offer a program to connect with your Becoming a Mother Day, and for your child to connect with their birthday and birth story - creating space for all that is present to be included and heard. You can find this program and learn more about it on my website; it is called Happy Becoming a Mother Day!

I would love to join!

Aware Birthdays

Joss Goulden once invited me to speak on her podcast Aware Parenting Stories, where we talked about birthdays, the impact our birth stories can have on our lives, and how transformational and healing the time around - and on - our birthdays can be.

If you would like to listen to that episode, clicking on the image will take you there.

If you would like to find out more about Joss Goulden and her work, you can visit her website through this button.

Learn more about Joss

You are warmly invited to contact me if you would like to purchase this program or if you have any questions.